The first time I heard this phrase it was in the movie, Eat, Pray, Love. In the movie Julia Robert’s/Elizabeth Gilbert’s two male friends are getting their hair cut at the barber. One of her Italian friends mocks the American lifestyle noting how we work ourselves to the bone only to lay around in our pajamas on the weekend watching TV. He claims that Americans know nothing about pleasure, always trying to justify pleasure instead of embracing it as well deserved (like Italians do). Her other friend then introduces the concept of La Dolce Far Niente – the sweetness of doing nothing.Read More
I’d like to tell you that there is one path you’re supposed to be on.
I’d like to tell you that you’ll be hit with the answer any minute now.
I’d like to tell you that life’s journey is simple, easy, known.
I’d like to tell you that it gets easier with time.
But all that is not true.Read More
“Every relationship is destined for destruction.”
When he said this to me, I flinched. You see, I believe in love and commitment and happily ever after. At least that is what I was taught to believe. So you can imagine that telling me that every relationship is doomed to fail is traumatic. Especially when it comes from the person I chose as my life partner.
But now I see how it is absolutely true.Read More
It’s difficult to write today. I’m overwhelmed.
I’m overwhelmed by the news of what is happening in the USA and its effects on the world. I am not sure I can log into Facebook any longer when each morning I am greeted by one word - “Trump” - instead of finding a welcoming word or being greeted by news of friends and family.
Today I feel like running away, hiding, closing the laptop and shutting out the noise.
Do you feel like that too? I imagine many of you do as well.
But there is no running away or hiding. And there are no easy answers.Read More
First there is a mountain.
But you don’t know it.
You don’t even see it.
At first you stumble around hitting your head, stubbing your toes, tripping over yourself as you try to find a path.
Then one day you notice the mountain and you notice that you are at the bottom of that mountain. Through the clouds you can barely distinguish a light shining at the peak. You know that someone is there waiting for you. Everything in you knows this.
And you begin to climb...Read More
I now make choices that align with my values even if it displeases someone else. I continue the practices I began when my son was young to stay attuned to what matters most to me in the present moment.
I learned that unless I place value on myself, no one would value me. I've become less tolerant of ignorance, unkindness, and victimization.
I have been able to identify a set of practices that sustain and nourish me. These practices lead to an authentic, empowered life.
Because I practice these lessons, I live an extraordinary life traveling between two countries, doing work that is location independent and having the flexibility to express myself creatively in ways that benefit others too.Read More
If you feel an “inkling”, a subtle feeling that there’s something amiss but you don’t know what it is, pay attention. That is the wisest part of you speaking. It may come as a whisper but if left unattended it will wreak havoc in your life.
This inner sage has the answers to the questions your mind doesn’t even know to ask.
There is transformation happening and it may not conform to what you’ve been told you should be or do. The outer world will present you evidence to the contrary. It will speak to you of what may happen if you dare listen, if you dare act out of love instead of out of fear.Read More
Every New Year a mantra reveals itself to me that serves as a compass for my decisions and actions and that challenges me to go beyond my limitations of ego and mind. The mantra is more than just words. It’s an invitation to break a hypnosis that quietly runs aspects of my life...
I am fiercely claiming my right to name myself from the inside out, not the outside in. It keeps the projections of others from intruding. It maintains my truth as my compass. I am making a choice about who I am in the world and how I am choosing to interact – from my center not from the projections of the outer world. That choice is inner freedom. From there I generate aliveness and energy that is the foundation of any endeavor I undertake.
There is joy and fulfillment just around the corner when you are open to the unknown, when you engage a conversation about your truth and what really matters.
Let that be your compass, your true north. Allow that creative expression of your essence to emerge regardless of your age. Allow yourself the blessing of emergence, the blessing of being honest about who you are and the courage to lead your life accordingly.Read More
You go through your life seeing what is obvious, what is directly in front of you and you don’t question what is beyond that. You may be experiencing a challenge or a change in your life that leaves you disoriented and fearful of the unknown. There arises a tension between letting go and moving on.
You experience this as a loss when it is actually the continuation of your personal journey.Read More
Walk softly the wind whispered
As leaves crackled under my feet
Walk firmly the ground called
As my steps created my path
Walk gently sang the birds
As I raised my voice to sing...Read More
The story Amy Tan tells in The Joy Luck Club reminded me of my life as a teenager. At the time I wanted to disown everything my parents were. I didn't want to admit where my parents came from.
I recognized the same shame as the daughters in the book experienced. My parents weren't sophisticated enough, they spoke differently, and they looked different. They thought differently, they just didn't fit in.
I was busy creating a career based on the “American Dream” and they didn't fit into my American way of life.Read More
I am about to take a dive into the deep end. I’m about to share with you something significant and personal because you and I share a mutual commitment to live authentically, to lead with integrity and to be the best possible version of ourselves so we can do the work we are meant to do.
I hear the voice of fear nagging at me. “What if they don’t like it? What if they think I’m wasting my talent? What if they think I’m crazy? What it they leave me? What if I lose all my income as a result? What if they lose confidence in me? What will they think of me?”
"When we understand, we are at the center of the circle and there we sit while YES and NO chase each other around the circumference." Chuang-Tzu
If I cannot stand in the center, in my authenticity and in my commitment, how could I ever ask you to do the same? The only grounding I have in times like these is to stand in the center and observe the inner conversations of my mind go around and around, going nowhere. I know that my power is in the center so I must stand there and be true.Read More
Life is in constant motion. It’s a universal law that nothing stays the same. All your cells are regenerating right now. The planet is constantly spinning. The breeze outside will subside in an hour. The tides ebb and flow. Nothing is permanent. But what happens when that movement is unconscious?
Everyone experiences self doubt at times. But we can transform that into positive energy to move forward. If I doubt my ability to do x then the question is what do I need to do to become capable of doing x. Go do that and you keep growing.
When you feel like you are not enough or you are not worthy or deserving you are likely attached to a story you tell yourself about the past.Read More
This is the way to soften around resistance. Step through the portal and listen deeply to your truth. Let the rest fall away. Honor the losses and even the destruction knowing that the breath brings with it new inspiration and insight from a place far away and yet so very close. In this sacred space there are no words, only a deepening compassion for all the battles fought and to be fought, for the losses and tears that become the price for redemption.Read More